2:57 PM

Searching Update

We recently got back our results from our search for more information for Elora’s past. We did not get anything huge. We did get a contact person who is willing to communicate with us at the police office that she was processed at, that alone made this search worth it to me. I am in the process of trying to foster that relationship. We also got over 100 photos and videos of her home town and finding spot as well as other locations in town that the searcher was searching for us. I asked for the weather on the day she was found and got that as well as other tiny mementos from her home town that are so precious to me, since we had no time to see the town or get to know the people.

I think the one thing that did surprise me from this venture was how no one who the searcher spoke to remembered a child being left at what we are told is her finding spot. It is so odd to me because she was such a phenomenon when we were in China, we were gawked at and photographed and followed and pointed at and stared at and crowds gathered where ever we went. I had this vision that her finding would have caused a great wave of on lookers, a sea of camera phones snapping away because that was what leaving the hotel with her was always like. I cannot believe that this little neighborhood full of small vendors and residential buildings and no one had heard of a baby having been found. They remembered me though, they all remembered a foreign lady coming a pasting up a poster about this child. Yep that was me, and I was on that street for about 7 minutes. I spoke to no one, I pasted up one solitary poster, took two photos of the poster and left. But a white haired baby all alone on the street did not get noticed or remembered?

Finding places have been known to be falsified all the time. At any number of points along a child’s path to the orphanage a little fib could be told. I have no reason to believe that the orphanage did not tell the truth, from what I can tell no other children from this orphanage are known to have false finding spots. So if it was not the orphanage fibbing, the next most logical point of misinformation is the person who reported her found. We still do not know the identity of this person. But that is one BIG assumption that this is a fib at all, maybe her finding was a quiet affair but that is just so contrary to how I envisioned it. I know I am not supposed to make any assumptions, but I just cannot help letting my mind wander. What a mystery.

5:56 PM

One whole year

This anniversary has snuck up on me, how is it that time went by so, so very fast. I am still awe struck by the whole events of this past year. In just 12 months time strangers became family. Think about that, really think about it. We were two strangers, personalities already formed by our life’s experiences, and what drastically different experiences they were. Different languages, cultures and challenges and now we are mother and daughter. There is something so very, very magical about this love we have for each other. I think maybe because it was not an assumed love. We chose to love each other. At the beginning we made little choices over and over to let this love happen, as we learned about who we each were we discovered we were soul mates and fell head over heels for each other, so now we are mother and daughter. Out of nothing came the most beautiful thing I have ever experienced.

We are so much the same, she and I, add that to the list of amazing things. These similarities do cause us to bump heads sometimes, but they have also lead me to understand where her mind is at. Daddy really “gets” her from years of learning how to “get” me, bonus and only fair since our son is a clone of him, now the playing field is even. I think this feeling of sameness has really sped up the family connection; we really feel that she belongs, a natural new cog in our family wheel.

Now for the most amazing part of all, the power and strength of one little girl who has jam packed 24 months of physical, emotional and cognitive development into 52 tiny little weeks. I wanted to make a list of all the things she can do now that she could not do this time last year, but when I sat down and thought about it, it is EVERYTHING! She was originally graded somewhere between a 6-9 month old for development when we met her at 18 months old, now she has met all her age requirements and more! Not to mention she did it while grieving her losses AND learning a new language AND being visually impaired. She has grown 6 inches and 7 pounds since we met her, I did not think that was humanly possible. I think some of the most impressive gains she has made are in the emotional area. She has learned to trust and how to regulate her emotions and to communicate her feelings. Can you say the same thing for most adults you know? This girl is UNSTOPPABLE! I am so excited to see what she will accomplish next year when many of these barriers will be gone, I fully expect world domination.

She has given me so very much, this experience is better than I ever thought it could be. I am so excited for the year to come.

“It is your time, yes my angel, It is your time

So just run my darlin’ with ribbons undone”

-Tori Amos