10:52 PM

Adoption Awareness Month - Gratitude

November is adoption awareness month.  The aim is to share the voices of adoption, all the voices, maybe and hopefully the voices that are less heard will be sought out by popular media for their chance to be heard.

I have always thought that our adoption story was one not often heard.  At the beginning that mattered a lot to me, now it hardly does at all.  I guess we are less of a statistic now and simply a family.  I found the community that I desperately needed for my self and my daughter, I am beginning to feel less like the rookie and more like the elder.  That is the first thing I am grateful for, but really just the tip of the iceberg.  The challenge was to write one thing per day that I am thankful for in regards to adoption.  I am going to put it all in one post just to save time, not because I don't have 30+ things to tell you I am thankful for.  I would love to shout out how thankful I am 1000 days in a row if I thought that it would come close to summing up how lucky I really am or if it could reach the ears of the ones who I so desperately need to tell.  I am sure that no matter how long it takes me to craft this post I will never feel like I am doing my feelings justice.  Let's try though :)

  1. Of course I am thankful for my daughter
  2. To China and her first family, I am still having a slew of emotions regarding her first family and country, but never think that gratitude is not at the forefront of them all.
  3. I am thankful to have learned the true meaning of resiliance and transformation, taught to me by the most incredible girl in the whole world.  I will keep these lessons learned with me in every way and every day.
  4. I am thankful for my friends and family that have welcomed her, loved her and opened them selves up to experience the true miracle she is and the gifts she gives to those who love her.
  5. I am thankful for her older brother, who has taken to the role with maturity, compassion and pride.
  6. Thankful for the way the world has opened up to me, I feel more a citizen of the planet and have enjoyed continuing to understand new language, culture, histories, traditions and heart aches.
  7. I am thankful for the adopted children from China that have come before my girl.
  8. I continue to be in awe of my husband who took our entire journey in stride and is the absolute best father that any one could ask for.  We all joke that he is a bit of a robot, all logic and not much emotion, yet he can read our daughter's emotions as easily as a calculus book :)  Trust me that is easy for him!
  9. I am thankful for a daughter who loves shoes and shopping and pretties yet can hold her own in a wrestling match.  A girl after my own heart.
  10. I am thankful for all the material things in my life.
  11. I am grateful and proud to live in Canada, land of free health care, specialist and aids for my daughter all free
  12. I am grateful for the adoption tax credit even though it is tiny compared to the US one
  13. and the other tax credits offered to a parent of a child with a disability
  14. I am grateful to our Mandarin tutor who will help me fulfill a grandparents dream of restoring an ancestral language to the family 3 generations after it was lost.
  15. I am thankful for our adoption agency, the match makers :)
  16. Selfishly I am thankful for all the choices, twists and turns though most of them caused every one involved considerable pain, because they brought us together.
  17. I am thankful for every single kiss and hug from Elora, they were hard won, and I do not take them for granted, I revel in them.
  18. The sweet is never as sweet with out the sour, so I am also thankful for the sour.
  19. I am thankful to be in a place now to embrace the sour with serenity.
  20. I am thankful for that glorious head of white hair that I stroke endlessly, I still can hardly believe it is finally under my hand.
  21. I am thankful for a full heart
  22. For two siblings who love each other and the joy and mischief they bring out in one another
  23. I am thankful to my mother who has swooped in at the last minute to be a nanny for the kids, a safe place for Elora to avoid increased anxiety.  I am so lucky to have this option, to be able to return to work with a peace of mind.
  24. My new camera and photography hobby that has let me document Elora in all her glory and lead me to some new friends and opportunities.
  25. I am thankful for adoption reform, to all the people in all the counties who are fighting for openness, transparency and ethics.
  26. Google translate
  27. All the simple things that most take for granted, like a baby photo of my daughter
  28. The many great nonprofits and organizations that are bringing reform and resources to the orphanages in China.  Many thanks to them, I got a child who was a kind of healthy that was unheard of even five years ago.
  29. To Elora's nannies and orphanage who saw her potential chose to invest in her
  30. The faces of the children left behind, I am thankful because you will never leave me and you make me do my best, try my hardest and simply never forget.


Bonnie, Jim, Ainsley and Sofie said...

Well said!!! Your words brought tears to my eyes